Yeah, the Eagle library editor leaves a lot to be desired. I don't use any canned parts, I draw them all up myself. The problem with the canned ones is they're designed for normal prodution where there's no need for much lead off on the pads. For hand soldering, I need a bit of a tail there.
It's the library editor that has been the biggest cause of grief for me in using Eagle. Also, it likes to do things a lot where it thinks it's helping me, but it's actually making things more difficult. I've used a few others and they work somewhat better, but I stick with Eagle, it does the job well enough and it's what most hobbyists are using anyway.